We all deal with insecurity in at least one area of our lives; some deal with it in many areas. Maybe you feel different. Perhaps you think you were dealt a bad hand or consider yourself to be unlucky in life. Either way, I’m here today to tell you that that is not the case.If you haven’t read the first article on identity issues start here: Identity Issues-What’s so special about me?
Lies we’ve been told
The opposite of truth is deception and the “Father of Lies,” the devil, will try to deceive you so that you will be in unnecessary bondage. He tries to get people to believe in things like evolution because it messes with our self-image. However, we know that it’s a lie because God already told us that we were formed in His image, and the animals weren’t. He created us to rule over the animals so what sense does it make that we would evolve from them?
Society will have us think that we’re imperfect, full of flaws, requiring touch-ups, diets, makeup, a certain hairstyle, and certain clothes in order to fit into this ideal mold. We’re too fat or too skinny, too light or too dark, too liberal or too conservative. And let’s be real, in this culture, there is nothing glamorous about stretch marks and babies!
If we are not living the superstar Instagram life, is it even worth living? Well, in case you’ve fallen into that trap, let me remind you that it took 25 takes and 5 filters to get that “flawless” photo. That perfect couple who “checked in” at a fancy restaurant may have just gone through a terrible trial. That friend from high school who dresses her baby in super expensive clothing and “shows off” all the time may have had 3 miscarriages or trouble conceiving.
Keeping up with the Joneses (or Kardashians)
Trying to fit in is not just a high school issue. Many women and mamas may feel pressured to keep up with those around them. Instead of raising their children to their full potential, they raise them to their neighbor’s full potential. Social media has made it even easier to fall into the comparison trap and allow negative thoughts to fuel your insecurity, especially if you have had people in your life who have spoken negative words over you.
Deep wounds & cracked foundations
It’s one thing when other kids made fun of you and put you down. But some of our deepest wounds have come from those we are closest to. The people we care most about like our parents, grandparents, siblings or friends are the ones who can have the greatest impact on what we believe about ourselves. Maybe you had a sibling growing up who thought they were “cooler” or “prettier” than you and now every time they say anything critical or joke around with you, you internalize it deep in your soul and you start repeating it to yourself. They may not even have meant it or remember saying it but you have not forgotten. They may have called you chunky or said you eat too much and suddenly you don’t even want to eat anymore.
Maybe you grew up with abusive parents or teachers who called you all type of names: stupid, worthless, a waste of time, ugly, fat, weak, lazy, selfish, easy, a failure, etc. Maybe you have parents who meant well but in always trying to push you to do better and to do more, they communicated to you that you are not good enough and you will never measure up. As a result, you have lost your grit and avoid anything challenging, preferring to accept your label as a failure.
That is exactly what the enemy wants because if you see yourself as a failure, you will not be able to boldly exercise your authority in Christ. If you don’t believe you were made to fulfill a great purpose, you will live a life of defeat.
Take heart; there’s hope!
Now, if any of the above resonates with you, take heart! I have certainly been down that road before and every now and again consider revisiting those parts of town. But when those feelings emerge, or when someone says a word that triggers a certain jab at my identity, I remind myself who I really am and who I was created to be. I no longer claim to be unworthy because the Blood of Jesus Christ has made me (and you) worthy. The Creator of the universe took his time to personally create us, individually. Our lives bear the imprint or mark of God. Created in his likeness, we are each a portrait of Him.
So listen to and be what God said you are because He knows what’s best for you. He knows what will make and keep you happy and how you can add so much to this world. He has equipped you with everything you need to fulfill your purpose and is there with you every step of the way.
Read more about identity issues and who you are here- Identity Issues: How to Restore Your Self-Image